Unpleasant comments
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muck_a_luckCellmate's Boss' wife's sister and her husband and family are relocating from Atlanta to this area.
The husband, to whom we will refer as CBWSH, has come to town in advance to work on a major project for his job. He is using the empty office beside Cellmate's Boss.
I have found CBWSH to be a breath of fresh air for me. He's about the same level of computer tech knowledgable as myself, he was able to identify Stargate from the pics that come up on my screensaver, he's seen all the sci fi stuff that I have, he's funny, and generally a very pleasant and nice guy to have around. This is not to denigrate anyone else in the office. But it is nice to be able to talk to somebody about some things and not have to explain every other thing.
Well...
Yesterday, he made a comment about how his 15 year old daughter would not be watching the Rocky Horror Picture Show. He said, "It's' funny how you get around these things. I told her I watched it, but I was in college, and once was enough and I wasn't watching it again." And as we continued to talk, it became clear that the reason he and his daughter are not watching it again is because "it's wrong." And I don't think he was talking about artistic content or script.
I wasn't sure what to say right at that moment. I'm used to living in my little bubble and quite frankly at this time I don't know anyone who would make a statement like that to me. At all. I let it go, but then I felt bad about letting it go - like I was betraying the aunties, and my cousin, and my uncle, and my friends, and my own principles.
On the other hand, it's the office, and I don't really need to go getting in screaming fights with people over things that are not work related.
On the other hand, if this guy had made a comment about, oh, his daughter not dating a nigger, or something, I doubt I would have let that go by.
So.
Also, I find that my view of this guy, who I liked very much, has totally changed. I don't really want to talk to him anymore. He makes me uneasy.
Anyway, I think the next time it comes up, if ever, I will point out to him that the aunties are married and my son was their ring bearer, and I would appreciate it if he would not make comments like that to me.
Now, off to do a workout before bed. Please do not check the time stamp.
The husband, to whom we will refer as CBWSH, has come to town in advance to work on a major project for his job. He is using the empty office beside Cellmate's Boss.
I have found CBWSH to be a breath of fresh air for me. He's about the same level of computer tech knowledgable as myself, he was able to identify Stargate from the pics that come up on my screensaver, he's seen all the sci fi stuff that I have, he's funny, and generally a very pleasant and nice guy to have around. This is not to denigrate anyone else in the office. But it is nice to be able to talk to somebody about some things and not have to explain every other thing.
Well...
Yesterday, he made a comment about how his 15 year old daughter would not be watching the Rocky Horror Picture Show. He said, "It's' funny how you get around these things. I told her I watched it, but I was in college, and once was enough and I wasn't watching it again." And as we continued to talk, it became clear that the reason he and his daughter are not watching it again is because "it's wrong." And I don't think he was talking about artistic content or script.
I wasn't sure what to say right at that moment. I'm used to living in my little bubble and quite frankly at this time I don't know anyone who would make a statement like that to me. At all. I let it go, but then I felt bad about letting it go - like I was betraying the aunties, and my cousin, and my uncle, and my friends, and my own principles.
On the other hand, it's the office, and I don't really need to go getting in screaming fights with people over things that are not work related.
On the other hand, if this guy had made a comment about, oh, his daughter not dating a nigger, or something, I doubt I would have let that go by.
So.
Also, I find that my view of this guy, who I liked very much, has totally changed. I don't really want to talk to him anymore. He makes me uneasy.
Anyway, I think the next time it comes up, if ever, I will point out to him that the aunties are married and my son was their ring bearer, and I would appreciate it if he would not make comments like that to me.
Now, off to do a workout before bed. Please do not check the time stamp.
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Date: 2007-06-29 12:50 pm (UTC)Good luck *hugs*
nice to be thought of...
Date: 2007-07-05 02:17 pm (UTC)as one half of the aunties, i can tell you that we appreciate you thinking of us and also definitely that you were in a work situation that didnt necessarily warrant rocking the boat.
also - we were in a seriously uncomfortable situation this past weekend in ga as well that we'll have to tell you about some time... it turned out to be fairly funny.