Frayed Edges: Poems by Kahlani B. Steele My rating: 5 of 5 stars The first thing we see when we open a book, whether we realize it or not, is formatting. In Kahlani B. Steele’s Frayed Edges, the white space of each page seems to lift up each poem into in a corner, which feels cozy and inviting. That space also allows us the quiet needed to think about what we’re reading. Every aspect of our world is up for scrutiny. The inhabitants of office cubicle farms, the experience of riding an elevator, all-too-human glimpses into sexuality, dreams, and nightmares. Nature, a favorite topic of many poets is given room to grow. All topics are given special twists that breathe life into the author’s work. It’s never easy to single one poem out of a collection to call a favorite. So much is dependent on mood and timing. Though, I will wiggle an eyebrow at “Decadence”, a collaboration between Steele and Krystoff Juddbryll. It’s a celebration of a sexual union, delightfully presented in cleverly organized alliterations. I’m a complete pushover for clever wordplay. Pardon my innuendo, but it pushed all my buttons!
Book Review: Woodland Whimsy: A Monochrome Coloring Book of Relaxing Forest Scenes
Apr. 3rd, 2026 03:34 pmClearly I've been living under a rock as I wasn't aware of monochromatic coloring books, until now.
Book Bingo: I3 | Crime/Mystery | A Scandal in Mayfair
Apr. 1st, 2026 06:48 pmA Scandal in Mayfair by Katharine Schellman

Blurb:
This book rounds out the series of five books. I think that the series ends in a really good place, with Lily and her friends are accepting of Lily's detecting adventures. She has finished grieving for her husband. The murder was decently intriguing. I hope the author leaves it alone. However, these books are such a fun time and a relaxing read that if she writes more, I'll probably read them.
With this book, I've completed my second bingo:


Blurb:
Sometimes danger lurks in plain sight, and in the cutthroat London Season socialite Lily Adler must race against time to catch a killer. Fans of Bridgerton will delight in this Regency-era mystery featuring an intrepid sleuth, plenty of intrigue, and a touch of romance. London, 1817. The London Season is beginning once more, and Lily Adler’s return to her home on Half Moon Street feels different this year. No longer a recent widow, she has a life and friends waiting for her. Lily also has new responsibilities in the form of her protégée Amelia, the sister of her longtime friend Jack Hartley, who is escaping her own brush with scandal and murder. It doesn’t take long for Lily’s growing reputation as a lady of quality who can discreetly find what is missing or solve what is puzzling to bring a desperate young woman to her doorstep. But helping her means unraveling a tangled web of family secrets. Soon, a missing will, a dead body, and the threat of blackmail leave Lily facing danger every way she turns. The glittering society of Mayfair conceals many secrets, and the back alleys of London hide even more. Lily Adler will need to find the connection between them quickly if she wants to stop a killer before it’s too late.
This book rounds out the series of five books. I think that the series ends in a really good place, with Lily and her friends are accepting of Lily's detecting adventures. She has finished grieving for her husband. The murder was decently intriguing. I hope the author leaves it alone. However, these books are such a fun time and a relaxing read that if she writes more, I'll probably read them.
With this book, I've completed my second bingo:

Book Bingo: N2 | Historical (Fiction or Nonfiction) | The Gales of November
Mar. 29th, 2026 09:38 amThe Gales of November: The Untold Story of The Edmund Fitzgerald by John U. Bacon

Blurb:
I really enjoyed understanding the economics of Great Lakes shipping, the science of why November is the worst month on the Lakes (not say, January), and the detailed descriptions of what happened on November 9-10, 1975 on Lake Superior (funny how the other 4 lakes retain a form of their Indigenous names; I suppose English speakers didn't want to call it any variation of Gumee or Gami). The author spoke to many, many people with first-hand knowledge of the Fitz, including former crew members, family members of the lost crew, and various people on both ends of the journey who interacted with the Fitz and her crew.
It's amazing that the ultimate cause of the sinking remains a mystery. Weather, obviously, and lack of reliable data about the weather. But also, capitalism, I would say. There were three captains that sailed that day. One of them decided to hell with his bosses and parked his ship in Thunder Bay, even though he knew he would lose his 'on-time' bonus. The second captain and his ship, the Arthur Anderson, survived through pure luck. The third captain, Captain McSorley of the Edmund Fitzgerald, made every possible wrong decision he could have made due to not having the proper data about the storm and topography of Lake Superior.
There was a great deal of information about Gordon Lightfoot and how he came to write the song that has kept "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald" in the public consciousness. According to reports, he became very close with the families of the crew.
The one criticism I would have about this book is that it is a little bit disorganized, with a lot of hopping back and forth in time. For instance, Lightfoot is brought up well before the chapters dealing with the sinking, with no indication that he was even aware of the Fitz before she sank. Other than that, I highly recommend it.
And as a footnote, now I know the difference between two 1970s ballads with very similar names: "Brandy" and "Mandy". The lyrics to "Brandy" are printed at the end of the book.

Blurb:
For three decades following World War II, the Great Lakes overtook Europe as the epicenter of global economic strength. The region was the beating heart of the world economy, possessing all the power and prestige Silicon Valley does today. And no ship represented the apex of the American Century better than the 729-foot-long Edmund Fitzgerald—the biggest, best, and most profitable ship on the Lakes.
But on November 10, 1975, as the “storm of the century” threw 100 mile-per-hour winds and 50-foot waves on Lake Superior, the Mighty Fitz found itself at the worst possible place, at the worst possible time. When she sank, she took all 29 men onboard down with her, leaving the tragedy shrouded in mystery for a half century.
In The Gales of November, award-winning journalist John U. Bacon presents the definitive account of the disaster, drawing on more than 100 interviews with the families, friends, and former crewmates of those lost. Bacon explores the vital role Great Lakes shipping played in America’s economic boom, the uncommon lives the sailors led, the sinking’s most likely causes, and the heartbreaking aftermath for those left behind—"the wives, the sons, and the daughters,” as Gordon Lightfoot sang in his unforgettable ballad.
Focused on those directly affected by the tragedy, The Gales of November is both an emotional tribute to the lives lost and a propulsive, page-turning narrative history of America’s most-mourned maritime disaster.
I really enjoyed understanding the economics of Great Lakes shipping, the science of why November is the worst month on the Lakes (not say, January), and the detailed descriptions of what happened on November 9-10, 1975 on Lake Superior (funny how the other 4 lakes retain a form of their Indigenous names; I suppose English speakers didn't want to call it any variation of Gumee or Gami). The author spoke to many, many people with first-hand knowledge of the Fitz, including former crew members, family members of the lost crew, and various people on both ends of the journey who interacted with the Fitz and her crew.
It's amazing that the ultimate cause of the sinking remains a mystery. Weather, obviously, and lack of reliable data about the weather. But also, capitalism, I would say. There were three captains that sailed that day. One of them decided to hell with his bosses and parked his ship in Thunder Bay, even though he knew he would lose his 'on-time' bonus. The second captain and his ship, the Arthur Anderson, survived through pure luck. The third captain, Captain McSorley of the Edmund Fitzgerald, made every possible wrong decision he could have made due to not having the proper data about the storm and topography of Lake Superior.
There was a great deal of information about Gordon Lightfoot and how he came to write the song that has kept "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald" in the public consciousness. According to reports, he became very close with the families of the crew.
The one criticism I would have about this book is that it is a little bit disorganized, with a lot of hopping back and forth in time. For instance, Lightfoot is brought up well before the chapters dealing with the sinking, with no indication that he was even aware of the Fitz before she sank. Other than that, I highly recommend it.
And as a footnote, now I know the difference between two 1970s ballads with very similar names: "Brandy" and "Mandy". The lyrics to "Brandy" are printed at the end of the book.
How to Find and Enjoy New Hobbies That Boost Your Life
Mar. 28th, 2026 05:15 pmBusy adults rebuilding routines, burned-out professionals, and anyone who feels “not naturally talented” often want a hobby but get stuck at the starting line. The core tension is simple: beginners in hobby learning crave something enjoyable and good for them, yet worry about wasting time, feeling awkward, or quitting after the first rough week. The truth is that the benefits of hobbies have little to do with being gifted and everything to do with finding a match for real life and energy. Whether the pull is creative skills development, physical activities for wellness, intellectual hobbies, or lifestyle enrichment, a well-chosen hobby can steady mood, strengthen confidence, and add everyday joy. Understanding Hobby Types and What They Do for You Sometimes it helps to sort the options. Hobbies aren’t one big bucket. They tend to fall into four beginner-friendly categories: creative (making), physical (moving), intellectual (learning), and lifestyle (home and daily-life upgrades). Each category grows you in a different way, so the “right” hobby is often the one that fits your energy and your current goals. This matters because burnout and busy schedules call for the right kind of refill. Some people need calm and expression, while others need a body reset or a mental challenge. The Society of Behavioral Medicine notes hobbies can make us less stressed, which gets easier when your hobby matches your day. Think of it like choosing a workout plan. After a draining week, a lifestyle hobby like simple cooking might feel doable, while learning a language fits a high-focus evening. Either way, hobbies can make us happier when they align with your capacity. With your category match in mind, a beginner menu makes picking and starting feel simple. Try 10 Skill-Building Hobbies With First-Week Steps Pick one hobby that matches your current “hobby type” energy, creative, physical, intellectual, or lifestyle, and give it a simple, low-cost first week. Think of this as a menu: choose one item, follow the first-week steps, and see what feels surprisingly easy to repeat. Choose 3 micro-sessions for Week 1 (15 minutes each): Put three short blocks on your calendar before you pick supplies. This works because consistency builds confidence faster than a big, one-time effort, and it keeps your new hobby from becoming an “all-or-nothing” project. Example: Mon/Wed/Sat right after dinner, phone on airplane mode, timer set. Start writing as a hobby with a “tiny output” goal: Do 10 minutes of freewriting, then spend 5 minutes shaping it into one paragraph you’d actually keep. What to practice first: sensory detail (what you saw/heard), then one clear point (what you learned or felt). Low-cost tools: any notes app or a cheap notebook, your goal is volume and comfort, not perfection. Try cooking for the real cooking hobby benefits, repeatable basics: Pick one “template meal” you can repeat (sheet-pan vegetables + protein, a stir-fry, or a soup). What to practice first: knife safety, seasoning (salt/acid), and heat control, those skills transfer to everything. Keep it low-cost by choosing 3 ingredients you already like and cooking them two different ways in Week 1. Use sewing as a skill-builder with repairs before projects: Start with a 20-minute “mend sprint”: sew on one button, fix one small seam, or hem one pair of pants. What to practice first: threading a needle, making even stitches, tying off securely. If you’re buying supplies, start with a basic needle pack, neutral thread, and small scissors, bonus points if you practice on old fabric first. Learn gardening basics with one container and one plant: Begin with a single pot on a windowsill or balcony, herbs are great because you’ll notice results quickly. What to practice first: checking soil moisture with your finger, learning light levels, and watering less often but more thoroughly. Many people report mood benefits too, which can be extra motivating on low-energy days. Build an “eye” with beginner photography challenges: Use your phone and do one mini-challenge per session: “light” (shoot near a window), “composition” (rule of thirds), and “story” (three photos that show a moment). What to practice first: tap-to-focus, holding steady, and editing lightly by cropping. Keep costs at zero until you feel limited by the phone. Pick a physical hobby, dance, walking, or yoga, with one repeatable routine: Choose a 10–15 minute routine you can do in your living room, then repeat it three times. What to practice first: learning 4–8 basic moves or poses and transitioning smoothly, not doing them “perfectly.” This fits the physical hobby category and builds energy you can bring back into creative or intellectual hobbies. Try language learning for beginners with “phrases you’ll use” (not vocab lists): Pick one real-life scene: ordering coffee, introducing yourself, or asking for directions. What to practice first: pronunciation of 10 phrases, then swapping in 5 words (name, numbers, common foods) to make dozens of sentences. A simple week plan: listen + repeat for 5 minutes, then say the phrases out loud while doing a routine task. Start learning musical instruments with rhythm first, notes second: Whether it’s keyboard, guitar, ukulele, or voice, begin with clapping or tapping a steady beat for 2 minutes, then play one easy pattern slowly. What to practice first: posture, relaxed hands, and clean sound on one chord or one scale. Keep costs low by borrowing an instrument or choosing a beginner-friendly option you can resell easily. Add one more “creative slot”: sketching, painting, or crafting with strict limits: Do 10 minutes of drawing simple shapes or shading objects you already own. What to practice first: lines, shadows, and seeing “big shapes” before details. If local craft stores are limited, check libraries, thrift stores, and online marketplaces for starter supplies. When you treat hobbies like experiments, small sessions, simple tools, and one skill to practice, you’ll naturally gravitate toward what fits your lifestyle. That makes it much easier to set up a routine that doesn’t rely on willpower to keep going. Habits That Make New Hobbies Stick Try these small practices to keep momentum. Hobbies feel “easy” when they fit your week without needing a surge of motivation. These habits create a simple structure for consistent hobby practice, so you can enjoy the process, notice progress, and keep going even on busy days. Calendar First, Hobby Second What it is: Schedule three short sessions before you decide what to practice. How often: Weekly planning, then follow your set days. Why it helps: Time blocks protect your hobby from getting crowded out. One-Minute Setup Reset What it is: Keep supplies visible, charged, and ready in one dedicated spot. How often: Before each session. Why it helps: Less friction means you start more often. Tiny Finish Line What it is: End each session with one saved result, photo, note, or clip. How often: Every session. Why it helps: Small wins build attachment and skill confidence. Track the Spillover Benefits What it is: Use daily incidentals to note side effects like energy, calm, or focus. How often: 2 minutes after sessions. Why it helps: You keep the hobby because it improves your day. Two-Month Patience Rule What it is: Treat consistency as an experiment, not a personality test. How often: Per new hobby. Why it helps: You stop quitting early and let enjoyment catch up. Pick one habit this week and tailor it to your family’s rhythms. Common questions about hobbies when you feel stuck When motivation is low, good questions can unlock your next small step. Q: What are some easy hobbies for beginners that can help reduce stress and improve mental well-being? A: Start with low-pressure, sensory hobbies like walking while listening to music, simple journaling, beginner yoga, coloring, or tending a small plant. Choose something that feels calming in the first 10 minutes, not something that looks impressive online. Keep the bar tiny: one song, one page, one short stretch. Q: How can I stay motivated and avoid feeling overwhelmed when starting a new hobby like cooking or dancing? A: Decide on one clear goal for the month: relax, move your body, or learn one basic skill. Use a just-in-time approach, since workflow learning means you learn what you need right when you need it, instead of trying to master everything upfront. Pick one “starter routine,” like one recipe or one dance step, and repeat it until it feels easy. Q: What practical steps can I take to learn creative skills such as writing or photography effectively? A: Create a simple practice loop: a short prompt, a short session, then a quick review of one thing to improve next time. Limit tools at first, like one lens, one app, or one style, so you build confidence faster. If you hit a plateau, copy one example you admire to learn technique, then make a small variation. Q: In what ways can exploring different hobbies enrich my personal and social life? A: Hobbies add identity beyond work and responsibilities, which can reduce stress and boost self-trust. If you want connection, choose hobbies that create natural “show and tell,” like cooking for a friend, joining a walk group, or taking a casual class. Even solo hobbies become social when you share progress photos, swap tips, or collaborate on a small challenge. Q: If I want to organize and manage my time and resources effectively to balance multiple hobbies or even turn one into a small passion project, where can I find structured guidance to do so? A: Start by naming the outcome you want: calm, skill growth, community, or a small side project, then choose guidance that matches it. Casual classes are great for sampling, while a structured online program helps when you want clear milestones and accountability. Those exploring a business management degree can consider this option. Keep it realistic by budgeting time, money, and energy upfront, and review weekly so the hobby stays supportive, not stressful. Keep it playful, keep it small, and let consistency do the heavy lifting. Start a New Hobby With Ten Minutes of Real Practice Feeling stuck often isn’t a lack of interest, it’s the pressure to pick the “right” hobby and be good at it fast. The steadier approach is to choose a simple goal, use light structure, and treat progress as practice rather than proof. Do that, and the benefits of learning new hobbies show up quickly: more calm, more creativity, more connection, and more confidence, real personal enrichment through hobbies. Pick one hobby and give it ten minutes today. Set a timer and spend those ten minutes on the smallest first session, then stop on purpose, so starting stays easy. This kind of encouragement to start hobbies builds resilience you can carry into the rest of life.
2026 First Book Bingo
Mar. 27th, 2026 09:34 amI didn't post this yesterday with the book that did it, but here is my first bingo for book bingo 2026:


Book Bingo: N5 | YA/Childrens | Wind in the Willows
Mar. 26th, 2026 06:43 pmWind in the Willows by Kenneth Grahame

Blurb:
Most people are probably most familiar with the adventures of Toad, because those portions of the book where made into a Disney cartoon.
This is one of my favorite books from my childhood.

Blurb:
First published in 1908, The Wind in the Willows is a literary classic which details a fantasy-esque adventure of four anthropomorphic animals (Toad, Rat, Badger and Mole) as they travel throughout their forest home. It is a classic novel that expertly details many large themes surrounding the human condition. Heavy with metaphor and symbolism, it is regarded as one the greatest books ever penned, not just for its thrilling subject matter and beautiful imagery, but also for its larger commentary on human emotions, social interaction and morality.
Most people are probably most familiar with the adventures of Toad, because those portions of the book where made into a Disney cartoon.
This is one of my favorite books from my childhood.
Back to Texas
Mar. 25th, 2026 10:17 amI made a lightning trip back to Texas over the weekend for my daughter's engagement ceremony. She is marrying a Hindu man. The ceremony was lovely, and a wonderful chance for the two families to get to know each other. I tried a lot of foods that I never have before and found some I really liked.
Dallas was stupidly hot and I'm glad I don't live there anymore. We all decided that we wouldn't trade Michigan winters for Texas summers.
I didn't get a chance to look up any friends in the area because nearly every minute was booked. We drove around a bit when we had a spare few minutes (those were in short supply) and looked at some of our old haunts. It was familiar but definitely not 'home' anymore.
I'm exhausted and all my schedules are in disarray - eating, cleaning, sleeping, and so on. Routine may be boring at times, but at other times, it's a relief.
We didn't encounter any TSA problems at any airports, nor did we see any ICE presence.
Dallas was stupidly hot and I'm glad I don't live there anymore. We all decided that we wouldn't trade Michigan winters for Texas summers.
I didn't get a chance to look up any friends in the area because nearly every minute was booked. We drove around a bit when we had a spare few minutes (those were in short supply) and looked at some of our old haunts. It was familiar but definitely not 'home' anymore.
I'm exhausted and all my schedules are in disarray - eating, cleaning, sleeping, and so on. Routine may be boring at times, but at other times, it's a relief.
We didn't encounter any TSA problems at any airports, nor did we see any ICE presence.
Fantasy Faire in Second Life is Coming
Mar. 24th, 2026 09:52 pmCelebrating its eighteenth year, Fantasy Faire 2026 is the largest gathering of fantasy designers, enthusiasts, roleplayers and performers in the virtual world.





