One of those moments
Nov. 3rd, 2005 08:04 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
muck_a_luckHad a moment yesterday.
I'm working on a will for a client.
She had designated co-trustees. People often do this, particularly for guardians. They feel they must designate both members of a married couple as guardians. We always advise against co-anything unless there's a really good reason. Because that means two people must sign off on every decision, which is usually an unnecessary burden. We particularly advise against making married couples co-anything, because of the likelihood of divorce. Would you want to accidentally name a divorced couple as co-guardians of your children? Of course not.
So anyway, I had only noticed that this woman had named co-guardians. But she thought I was calling about the co-trustees (I hadn't noticed them yet).
She said she wanted someone to monitor her brother as co-trustee because "he's a homosexual."
Now, it's her will and I just didn't comment on that at all, just addressed the issue that I had called to discuss. And as it turned out, she seemed to have further concerns about her brother's fitness that extended beyond the mere fact that he was gay.
But in one of those moments, it struck me that she had so many reasons to exclude her brother, good reasons, if she is to be believed, and yet, the most prominent one in her mind, the most important one, the one she said first, was "he's a homosexual."
I know this is a surprise to no one. It's just one of those sad moments.
I'm working on a will for a client.
She had designated co-trustees. People often do this, particularly for guardians. They feel they must designate both members of a married couple as guardians. We always advise against co-anything unless there's a really good reason. Because that means two people must sign off on every decision, which is usually an unnecessary burden. We particularly advise against making married couples co-anything, because of the likelihood of divorce. Would you want to accidentally name a divorced couple as co-guardians of your children? Of course not.
So anyway, I had only noticed that this woman had named co-guardians. But she thought I was calling about the co-trustees (I hadn't noticed them yet).
She said she wanted someone to monitor her brother as co-trustee because "he's a homosexual."
Now, it's her will and I just didn't comment on that at all, just addressed the issue that I had called to discuss. And as it turned out, she seemed to have further concerns about her brother's fitness that extended beyond the mere fact that he was gay.
But in one of those moments, it struck me that she had so many reasons to exclude her brother, good reasons, if she is to be believed, and yet, the most prominent one in her mind, the most important one, the one she said first, was "he's a homosexual."
I know this is a surprise to no one. It's just one of those sad moments.
