Yikes!

[muck_a_luck]

I was just checking our spam filter. I try to do this periodically, in case clients accidentally sent e-mail to the wrong address.

There was an e-mail that looked legit from the subject line, so I clicked it.

It started off so nasty that I thought it was a porn advertisement and was about to delete it when I realized it was an e-mail between a husband and wife in a particularly icky separation/divorce case we have. The wife forwarded it to Boss for her file.

Dude!

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[mresundance.livejournal.com]

Dude!

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

That's what I said!

[lucky-sometimes.livejournal.com]

*laugh* Oh man!

[snarkyducky.livejournal.com]

haha.. XD how come the wife's spam filter didn't catch it in the first place?

(i just realized that spam filters may have the function to save marriages =___=)

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

Excellent point! Perhaps she should make her filter more sensitive! Or perhaps she just has an LJ and if she did it would filter all her comments. Hmmmmm.

[green-grrl.livejournal.com]

Ugh. How can people be so ugly to each other?

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

Imagine how horrible it would be to be forced to look at someone, share a house with someone, share a bedroom with someone, a budget, kids, cars, debt, income, etc., with someone you are coming to detest. I can see how it could happen. It's sad.

[(Anonymous)]

*shudder* I don't subscribe to any organized religion, but I do think the Catholic Church has a point with the "six months of counseling before marriage" thing. I was a bit astonished that my own dissolution, on the friendliest of terms and no points of contention, had a built-in six-month waiting period. Which is fine -- it shouldn't be a light decision. But how is it possible that people are allowed to marry so quickly? I wondered about divorces for women who are abused, or for someone whose spouse is racking up huge debts. You may be able to move out of the house, but the legal bindings are still there.

[green-grrl.livejournal.com]

fricka fracka... s'me

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

LMAO! Please look down, then! :)

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

Well, in Virginia, once you separate, a lot of things change. I know my boss has protected people from debt run up by the other spouse after the separation, for instance. And you can get protective orders against abusive spouses. But yep. You still have to wait, to the best of my knowledge. Nothing gets you an instant divorce.

[green-grrl.livejournal.com]

And yet, Elvis can marry you this afternoon, in Vegas. *sigh*

A certain logic

[muck-a-luck.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but can't you get quickie divorces in Vegas, too?

Also,I was thinking. In a way, the Catholic thing fits in with the overarching culture. Hypothetically, a good Catholic is *never* going to get divorced. So *of course* there needs to be a careful preparation period. But a non-Catholic has the divorce outlet. So if you screw up, you have to wait only 6 months to a year to get out of it, not until you die. So a certain logic...

Re: A certain logic

[(Anonymous)]

Ah! You are correct. I was thinking Nevada was popular for divorce back when divorce in other states was extremely onerous (had to have an "at fault" party, etc.). But I see you can get a divorce in 1-2 weeks there now.

And not that Vegas has the lock on quickie weddings. I got married in San Francisco after only waiting the 3 days for the blood test results, and later discovered we could have dispensed with that by saying we had already lived together as man and wife for 6 months.

Secular wedding vows also include "as long as you both shall live" -- however obviously general society doesn't take it nearly as seriously as faithful Catholics do. And maybe considering what you mentioned above -- property, kids, debt, etc. -- that's too bad. Not that I think people should stay married forever, or that there shouldn't be other societally accepted alternatives to marriage, but as marriage currently exists, it's too damned easy.

Have I flogged this horse completely into the ground, or what? *exasperated with self*