Hi, I saw your post on 3w4dw and decided to check you out. Have you tried bellydance? There are some amazing videos out there, especially from the company World Dance New York. Suhaila Salimpour's Fitness Fusion DVDs are great for muscle control and conditioning, although they don't have that much actual dancing. There's also Shiamak's Indojazz series; Shiamak is an acclaimed Bollywood choreographer and I've met his Vancouver jazz teacher.